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Nov 26, 2019

MM025 Alan Stein Jr., Former Big League Sports Coach, Talks Habits, Presence, and Evolution


Alan Stein, Jr. is a former big league sports and performance coach turned motivational speaker who individuals, audiences, and organizations discover techniques and strategies to improve their performance, increase accountability, and raise their game to be the best they can be. As a highly sought-after keynote speaker, he has presented on various stages and at workshops and training seminars such as TEDx Baylor School. He is also the author of Raise Your Game: High-Performance Secrets from the Best of the Best, a book that shares tips and strategies used by world-class top performers on establishing and repeating good habits that will increase your A-game and take your performance to the next level.


Alan joins me today to discuss the importance of embracing change and evolution to create better habits and increase your performance. He explains how your ability to perform at a high level is tied to your self-confidence, self-value, and self-worth and shares why giving yourself the same grace and compassion that you would give to others is the key to unlocking true happiness. He also shares his three-step process for breaking poor habits and creating lasting change as well as why he is proud to be “amicably divorced” and how it has helped him be a better ex-husband while being more present in the lives of his children.



“It’s okay to be human - and it’s important to remember that.” - Alan Stein, Jr.


Today on Mastering Midlife:

  • The relationship between your performance, your confidence, your self-worth, and your self-value.
  • The importance of embracing change and how it leads to higher performance.
  • Viewing change as a prerequisite of getting where you want to go or becoming who you want to become.
  • The importance of acknowledging mistakes, learning from them, and trying to avoid repeating them.
  • Why giving yourself the same grace and compassion that you would to a friend or loved one is the key to true happiness.
  • The importance of focusing on a single habit at a time to create lasting change.
  • How long it really takes to change a habit or behavior.
  • The importance of having a system of accountability in place.
  • Why having patience is critical to making lasting changes and improvements.
  • The ripple effect of making small changes toward better habits and behaviors.
  • Understanding that you are in control over how you respond to situations and your attitude toward change.
  • The importance of not comparing yourself - your journey - to others.
  • Being self-aware and recognizing when you’re playing the “comparison game.”
  • Why Alan is proud to be “amicably divorced” and how it has impacted his relationship with his ex-wife as well as how they raise their children.


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Alan Stein Jr.’s 3 Step Process for Changing Habits:

  1. Make a list of all the habits and behaviors you want to change. Pick one single habit to focus on.
  2. Implement the new behavior or habit for 66 consecutive days.
  3. Keep the “spotlight of accountability” on.



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